Memories are made in the Mundane

In poor planning fashion, I somehow failed to realize that the 30th feel on a Monday. Which means I planned for every post except this one, I sit here on a Sunday with so much on my mind and no clue where to start. So Sorry folks, you get an old school stream of consciousness post.

Lots of things are on my mind but making magical memories is there at the fore front. Are you team everything needs to be magical or team memories are made in the mundane? I don’t know if that even makes sense, like I do special things for everyone in my life. I am about making memories, though I believe memories are made in the mundane. Some of my favorite memories in life are not the extravagant experiences in life, they are those little moments in the everyday. Like laughing in the kitchen while preparing dinner as a family, discussing how we discovered chickens are related to dinosaurs, etc. I want everyone in my inner circle to know they are loved, cared about, have a friend that will listen, laugh & cry with them. Discussions about the hard things can happen here, we have open ears and open hearts. My home is the place where you can show up and know that there are open arms, a beverage of your choice, blankets, a hug, and a cat who oddly knows when people needs cuddles. Memories are made in those moments when no one is looking for them; in cups of tea, smiles and idle chit chat. I am not saying Pinterest and it’s excessive ideas are wrong, I get ideas there. Just know that making magic isn’t just excessive gestures but in the mundane.

The Friendship and Adventure of Siobhan and TootToot Part 10

If your new to this story and would like to start at the beginning.

Heads up, I will be taking a break from these post after every ten post in the story. We will be back with more Siobhan and TootToot the First Thursday in November.

These post will be written by the player who plays Siobhan, at the point that these started these characters had been playing together for 2 years. They are no longer being actively used in our campaign. They are still doing stuff behind the scenes. There has been a ten year time jump in our campaign since these have been written. Nothing TootToot does majorly is done with out discussing with me; lets be honest though most of our party knows what TootToot is going to do before he does. This series is long, be prepared. Also it will reveal a lot of TootToot’s backstory that he hasn’t shared with others before and Some of Siobhan’s. Yes; believe it or not my party had been playing with me for two years before I revealed TootToot’s backstory. Hard to believe, I know.

Why UFYH

So I was not blessed with the cleaning genes (I don’t know if that is the right words). I was not taught by example growing up, my parents for all that was good about them home keeping was not on their radar. I grew up moved out on my own and managed okay when it was just me, barely keeping my head above water. Then I moved in with Casey and I started drowning. At that time we had 3 roommates and one bathroom. Hey man it was for the last 6 months Casey was in college. Then we got our first place of our own, and I didn’t magical become Martha Stewart. I wanted a picture perfect home. We didn’t have kids it shouldn’t be this hard, why was it so hard. Then we had kids and I was not only drowning but sitting on the bottom not coming up for air at all, and with my own mental health struggles. I couldn’t get ahead.

In June of 2017 don’t remember how I heard about UFYH. Maybe Twitter, Maybe Facebook. I ended up in the group. And after seeing a few post about 20/10’s more about those in a minute and the fact that everyone was welcome no matter their gender/ religious background. I was like I need the book. I had done research into other systems; Fly Lady (aka Zone Cleaning), and a bunch of other systems. All were made for just women, and a lot were religiously based. While if those work for you, that wasn’t what I was looking for. They also didn’t account for people who couldn’t clean for long periods of time. UFYH on the other is against marathon cleaning cause that causes burn out and in the end makes you not want to clean, the UFYH system encourages frequent breaks. It is inclusive of all everyone and does not bring up religion. On their website there are little challenges to help you and more about the system. Though my favorite is just a plain old 20/10, 20 minutes of cleaning followed by a 10 minute break; rinse and repeat. I typically do about 90 minutes total of 20/10’s. So much can get done.

So I don’t hate Zone Cleaning but it just doesn’t work for me. First off I can’t work on a firm schedule like that. Also the fact that Fly Lady is so heavily religious makes me oddly uncomfortable. It is cleaning, like shouldn’t it be available to everyone not just women and Christians. Men and children clean, everyone in my house cleans.

On another note also reading Dana K White’s How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: Dealing with Your House’s Dirty Little Secrets, with UFYH was literally the magic combo that has changed my mindset. I will be honest, I still still stumble. My house gets dirty; dishes in the sink, floors that need to be done, laundry that needs to be folded. Though my head is above water and nothing a few 20/10’s can’t fix.

The Friendship and Adventures of Siobhan and TootToot Part 9

If your new to this story and would like to start at the beginning.

These post will be written by the player who plays Siobhan, at the point that these started these characters had been playing together for 2 years. They are no longer being actively used in our campaign. They are still doing stuff behind the scenes. There has been a ten year time jump in our campaign since these have been written. Nothing TootToot does majorly is done with out discussing with me; lets be honest though most of our party knows what TootToot is going to do before he does. This series is long, be prepared. Also it will reveal a lot of TootToot’s backstory that he hasn’t shared with others before and Some of Siobhan’s. Yes; believe it or not my party had been playing with me for two years before I revealed TootToot’s backstory. Hard to believe, I know.

DIY Mug Rack

I have known that I wanted a coffee mug rack for over a year. I have large and growing collection of the Starbucks Been There mugs. I have wanted to display them. I have scoured the internet trying find one I liked, there were a few in the running on amazon but they were around $40 and didn’t hold half my collection.

So with no idea what I was doing and not having measured anything, I had Casey on board. So I need to get going. We went to a home improvement store and started shopping. First thing we went to find was hooks, I knew I wanted cup hooks. This is the one thing I would change if I could I would go with the 1 1/2 inch hooks instead of 1 1/4 (which work great for starbucks mugs, but don’t work for Rae Dunn). Since the last time I bought cup hooks they have added a lot of finishes. I chose Matte Brass after a length discussion between these or matte black. Then we had to pick paint, I had an idea of what I wanted. I had it narrowed down between two colors in less then 3 mins and Casey decided. It took more time to get our paint color made then pick it. For the planks we chose 1×4’s that were sold in 6ft length. We had the store cut them in half. And by pure luck it worked perfectly in the spot, not to brag I kinda have an eye for this. I don’t know how but I have been able to eye ball stuff since I was a teenager, it annoys Casey to know end. We already had all the paint stuff at home other then the paint from touching up our walls since moving in.

After a stop at the green dollar store to get a table cloth to paint on because it was over 100 degrees outside. I came home and started painting. The first coat went on no problem. When I went to paint the second coat Bra’tac got interested, Luckily he didn’t track paint everywhere and Casey caught him quickly. I got everything painted start to finish in about 3 hours.

About 4 hours after I finished the second coat Casey started putting the cup hooks in. With each board being 36 inches long we put 7 hooks in each board. Starting about an inch in on each end 5 inches apart. We then hung them on the wall 5 inches apart. The final product holds 28 mugs and really looks good. We love how it turned out.

The Friendship and Adventures of Siobhan and TootToot Part 8

If your new to this story and would like to start at the beginning.

These post will be written by the player who plays Siobhan, at the point that these started these characters had been playing together for 2 years. They are no longer being actively used in our campaign. They are still doing stuff behind the scenes. There has been a ten year time jump in our campaign since these have been written. Nothing TootToot does majorly is done with out discussing with me; lets be honest though most of our party knows what TootToot is going to do before he does. This series is long, be prepared. Also it will reveal a lot of TootToot’s backstory that he hasn’t shared with others before and Some of Siobhan’s. Yes; believe it or not my party had been playing with me for two years before I revealed TootToot’s backstory. Hard to believe, I know.

Summer 2019 Mental Health Update

TRIGGER WARNING MENTAL HEALTH POST (DEATH IS TALKED ABOUT)

There are many faces to mental health, the world and social media typically see me smiling. Most of the summer this was my true face but the last 6/7 weeks have been hard in our house. The summer started out great and it stayed great most of the way through the boys break which is a big thing for me. I struggle hard in the spring and summer. I have had the term reverse SAD brought up by a couple of doctors. I don’t know enough about it, but if it is what it seems, I would say that it is pretty true for me.