I grew up hearing this mantra repeated over and over again.It is true I would imagine, but it sure as hell helps. Things have been rough over the past few weeks, tiffs (arguments) have happened over stupid things and not so stupid things. The one reoccurring thing we fight about is groceries, how much is spend for what we get. I want to get away from using prepackaged they cost more in the long run and aren’t healthy. How can I show him that fresh is better in the long run or frozen even is better then hamburger helper. I don’t know how to explain to my husband these things are healthy.
Now on to what we have been arguing about, I think all of the stress of life are finally catching up with Casey and when they do instead of talking with me he starts to disconnect. It annoys me to no end. And this time of year is a rough time of year for me (that post is in the works). So while he disconnects I pull back because I need him to reach out and need me. I know from previous conversations when I point this out to him that he feels like he is burdening me when he talks about what is bothering me. I don’t know how to explain to any other way that is what I am here for to help bear his burdens. Then the worst part of all this is we then
forget, don’t have time or Don’t make the effort to reconnect physically.
I never realized until recently how much that physically intimacy effects us, we aren’t an all over each other couple, but the subtle gestures happen often in our home. When they aren’t happen we are quicker to snap at each other, quicker to start arguing, you get the point. I don’t like being that way with each other. With the little intimacies not happening, that means the big intimacy is not happening.
With some discussion Casey realized that He can’t withdraw from me and have the big intimacy when ever he wants. I am not just there to relieve tension, I need romance and to be wooed some. I know that those things are not as high a priority when worries of money, life, jobs, and other stress overcome but we all should remember (not just Casey) that your partner is the person who is there to help you overcome all your stresses.